– Contributed by – Bobby Rio, Co-creator of Make Small Talk Sexy.
If you ever had a girl seem completely into you and then go cold all of a sudden, you got played. The game girls play is ‘how much attention can I get this guy to give me’. It’s like a drug for some chicks.
They love the fact they can get some guy to stand around ‘entertaining’ them for 2 hours and just when he thinks he’s gonna ‘get some’ they bolt and never ever return his phone calls.
This doesn’t make them evil bitches like some guys like to refer them as, but it is reality and you’ve got to be aware that it exists.
And if you want to actually meet girls that are going to answer your calls, meet you for drinks, and go back to your place for additional fun then you’ve got to quickly differentiate yourself from the dozens of other “fans” of hers.
I call these guys “fans” because they act like she’s the celebrity and they’ve got to do everything they can to make sure she doesn’t get bored and leave.
But, let me ask you something, do celebrities ever really want to hang out with their fans? Sure, the admiration is probably fun for a bit but then they want to get back to their ‘real’ friends who treat them like human beings and don’t worship their every move.
Women are the same, once they sense your ‘admiration’ a switch goes off and they’re interest MASSIVELY dwindles. So how do you not only keep their interest but reverse their ‘game’ on them and grip their attention to the point they can’t stop thinking about you?
There are two main things you need to do:
1. Concentrate on showing YOURSELF the best possible time. Stop worrying about ‘entertaining her’ and do whatever it takes for you to completely enjoy cracking yourself up.
Doing this, quickly wakes a girl up to the fact that you’re not her ‘fan’ and aren’t dead set on entertaining her and keeping her around.
2. Get her to invest into the conversation. You see, the reason it’s so easy for most women to ditch a guy is because she put absolutely no work into talking to him.
However, when you get her opening up and telling you things about herself and you’re making judgements about her, her ego is much more on the line.
Hot girls know guys will never turn them down because of her ‘looks’ but they all get a bit insecure that when a guy gets to know them she won’t be able to keep his interest.
Deep down inside, women have the same old insecurities and fears as guys do and part of the reason they love the “attention game” is because it relieves some of their anxiety.
As long as they have fans out there, they MUST be desirable.
But once you flip that switch in her mind, you can ignite her desire to chase you and keep chasing you. There is one ‘caveat’ to making this work.
YOU. You must have the thought processes NAILED DOWN.
Because she is going to TEST you. She’s going to test to see if you’re “for real” and you better pass her test if you want to maintain the “upper hand.” The easiest way to do this is to change the way you “think”.
In my brand new training I lay out the exact “thought processes” that allow player’s to continually wrap women around their fingers.
When you begin “thinking” like a player you begin making the right decision naturally. But if you don’t understand the way a player thinks you’re going to keep giving your “hand” away to the woman too early.
And she’ll keep LOSING INTEREST IN YOU.
P.S. Be careful with this stuff. Playing “hot” and “cold” with a woman really is like a drug. And you can get a girl “obsessed” with you pretty easily. So make sure you’re only using this stuff on girls you are really interested in.