– Contributed by – Bobby Rio, Professional dating coach.
I work with a few personal coaching clients. These are guys who pay me a LOT of money to essentially solve their “love life” for them.
Now, I love working with these guys because its an opportunity to really make a difference, and I LOVE getting emails from them when they finally score that girl they’ve been after. But almost all of these calls lead to one awkward moment when I feel like I’m about to break their hearts.
What is that moment? It’s the moment when he tells me that: “Things were really good but now I can’t get her to hang out with me again”.
He tells me: “She’s always busy”.
I get silent contemplating how to best word what I’m about to say…
Then I tell him: “No, she’s not always busy. There is just another guy that she’d rather hang out with”. I know, its a cruel thing to say to a guy, but me sugar coating things won’t get him anywhere. And facts are facts. The facts are that cool, fun, attractive girls ALWAYS have a guy to hang out with.
And she’s gonna choose to hang out with the guy who has more of her attention. She’s going to choose to hang out with the guy who has stirred more emotion in her, and she’s going to choose to hang out with the guy that she has a stronger desire to sleep with (or has already slept with).
Facts are facts.
You can ignore them. Run from them. Pretend she’s “busy”. Or you can face the challenge head on like a man.
Here’s the thing…
If you’ve hung out with a girl a few times and thought things went really well (but now she’s slipping into the arms of another guy), then you probably didn’t get her “hooked” in all three realms.
In order to fully “hook” a girl you’ve got to seduce her emotionally, psychologically, and physically. A lot of guys don’t get this. They spend a few nights making her laugh, they have a lot of rapport with her, and connect emotionally, but that’s just ONE REALM (the emotional).
What they failed to do was:
1. Capture her attention so she’s thinking about him when he’s not around (psychological).
2. Awaken a strong desire to sleep with him (physical).
When you’ve conquered all three realms she forgets about other guys, she’s never busy and she ALWAYS has time to hang out with you.
If you want a “fast track education” on seducing all three realms in a woman then watch this video.